Anniversary or Anniversary Adventure
Marriage is where single and single become a couple, the union of two souls. Our weddings can be pretty elaborate and festive followed by a honeymoon. Yet, after that the honeymoon seems to be over and the anniversaries become stressful. Why do we wait a whole year to celebrate our anniversary? Each partner sets out in search of what they hope will be that perfect gift. I ask why? Why do we lose the honeymoon vibe? Why do we shop for our anniversary gifts separately when we're a couple?
My hubby and I got married on the 3rd of the month. We designated the 3rd of each month our honeymoon, kind of like a date day or night. We may buy our favorite ice cream, sit in bed, eat our ice cream and watch our favorite show. Taking a walk together discussing life or not saying anything. Buy one’s favorite candy, cookie, cook a favorite recipe or cook it together, play a board game, and laugh ~ something simple or silly just showing each other we care.
Our anniversary is different. We usually take the whole week off as we did when we got married. We will lay out a map of Florida (where we live) close our eyes and point ~ that's the city of our Anniversary Adventure. This year it was St. Augustine, and we began to make our unplanned plan. We figured out where we would stay but after that it was all day by day, no reason to stress out trying to plan every detail, just go with the flow of the day. Next, we look at the anniversary 'suggestions' or the number of years we've been married ~ 22 is copper. Now our scavenger hunt begins to try and find a gift for us that is copper related. We rode our bikes into St. Augustine, had lunch and shopped around. We stumbled upon a hammock/wind chime store where we purchased a copper-colored wind chime tuned in the note of 'C'. There was no stress as to what type of gift to buy or whether the other would like it because we purchased it together and we will enjoy listening to it chimes together.
So, the next month when your wedding date comes up why not try celebrating it as a date night. Do something simple or silly together. It doesn't have to be expensive; it could be something as simple as doing the dishes or cooking if that is something you don't normally do. Maybe sit outside, share a cocktail (or not if you don't drink) listen to music or the sounds of nature. It's okay to hold hands, not talk and just smile.
Next is your anniversary ~ make it an anniversary adventure. You don't have to take a week off, pick a day for your anniversary adventure and head out looking for that special gift and again, it doesn't have to be expensive just something you picked out ~ together.
Peace & Love